How to deal with rejection

How to deal with rejection: Have you ever felt as though the entire world is against you?
Have you ever felt as though nothing ever, ever goes you way and that the people you come in contact with on a daily basis either wants, to use you or abuse you?
If you are reading this then probably you are somebody or know somebody who is dealing with these kinds of situations right now as you read. Maybe you have been looking for an answer for a very long time now. Maybe you have not thought of it before but as you read you are discovering that this is the thing that has been bothering you for so long. Give me your full attention and I am going to make an honest attempt to give you very worthwhile advice on dealing with these feelings.
One of the things I have notice about us as human beings is that sometimes we all tend to feel a little down spirited especially after a rejection. Now when you consider a person who gets rejected more often than others, you might have on your hands someone with a permanent case of (and I will coin a new phrase here) down spirit syndrome who just seem to have it in for the world all because they think the world have it in for them. To be honest I have been through it myself and I feel like I am still learning to really over come it but nonetheless if you let my voice reach through these words you will find that my experiences so far could in fact liberate you from that dangerous mentality before it becomes too late.



Defining rejection

I mentioned the word rejection earlier and I thought it necessary to put the spot light on that for a moment since to me rejection is the major player in the “down spirit syndrome game”. I will attempt to define rejection for our purpose in this writing, not like oxford would but more in an emotional sense i. e. explain how affects individuals and how it feels etc. for our purpose here depression is a decline in acceptance of an individual’s or group of individual’s ideals, personalities and especially the individuals themselves.
Rejection usually manifests itself as turned down request for friendship, refused or terminated employment, strong and sometime very negative opposition to thoughts and many other situations of similar nature.



Coping with rejection

To be rejected an individual have to feel rejected. I know people who are actually immune to rejection. You can’t say a thing to them to dampen their spirit. If all of us could somehow learn to adapt this attitude then we have to bear a burden of all the bad experiences with people and will therefore be optimistic of good ones. The good news is we can actually learn to adapt this attitude.
The first thing to note about rejection is that for it to be one you must accept it as one. In other words you get to decide whether you should take it as rejection or not. That is not say that it was not harsh or negative but simply that you get to decide how much damage is done.
You can choose to be defeated, beaten up and left for dead inside or you can choose to se that some people generally bundle their under wears in dirty bunches (maybe you to). And in other cases maybe it’s a genuine case of somebody really not being able to accept you and your thoughts at a particular time in which case you just find people who will.
As much as we have to admit that there a few not nice people out there (not counting terrorists who would fall in the really bad people category), there are some pretty awesome ones as well.



Activity

If you think that you are almost always rejected you could be suffering from some serious anger issues. Try lighting up a bit even after one rejection still give people the benefit if the doubt. Stop classing everybody as bad. Be nice first. Try to Smile more even if you have to fake it at first and I guarantee that you would see different results.
People who feel rejected all the time might lack confidence, be strong even you must fake confidence whatever you do whoever you meet act as though you are sure of yourself. Don’t give people the impressions that expect to be rejected because you might be.
Be cheerful when dealing with people everybody is a customer even if you are the one buying sell people the idea that you are a great and fun person.
Keep you self well informed on current issues in your circles improve your communication skills and you understanding of people. Study people. Study how they interpret things and you will know how to get through to them with your ideas.



Examples of good experience after rejection

I was at an Indian store in my local town. A woman came in the store and looked at me and just as I was about to say something degrading to her, she asked if I was at the atm earlier I nodded then she handed an atm card to me asking if it was mines and it was.
You see earlier that day a situation came up on the job and I felt rejected. To me the entire day was spoilt and I was angry with everybody. I didn’t even greet the people in line at the atm and that is a big deal where I am from. And while I was thinking that the world is full of only ev-ill people this lady did that for me



I hope this post was of some help to everyone that read it even if you just browsed through.
Feel free to comment on this post or to ask for any clarification or further advice.


Best regards
The Traveler.